How do you know if they love you so?
1. EyesFirst of all, look deeply into their eyes. Notice if their pupils are dilated because if they are, they’re very attracted to you. Sexual desire – like fear – stimulates the sympathetic nervous system, one of the effects of which is wide, opened pupils. It can also relax the muscles around the eyes, giving them a softer “doe-eyed” appearance. Aww.
Then hold your partner’s gaze for four seconds or more – body-language research has shown that a long “eye meet” is only tolerated when a person feels affectionate towards a partner, otherwise it is perceived as an aggression action.
2. HipsWhen people are with someone they are fiercely attracted to, they unconsciously shift position so their hips are facing towards them. A US study conducted by David Givens and Timothy Perper revealed that lovers practice “total body synchrony”. Eh? In short, “they pivot or swivel until their shoulders become aligned, their bodies face-to-face…” Hmm, maybe this explains why dancing partners keep falling for each other on Strictly. But it’s more than just facing your lover -- couples in love often mirror each other’s actions, or move in tandem; specifically, they follow each other without question, or do not verbally acknowledge gestures between each other (for example, they could take a sip of your drink without asking, or you’d sit next to them without asking permission).
3. HairDoes it look great? Great! Being in love stimulates people to improve their appearance so a new haircut can be a sign of attraction. Does it look messy? Better! Repeated grooming gestures are another body-language giveaway of attraction. Women will twirl, stroke and play with their hair in the presence of their dream man, as a subconscious, “Please God let me look OK,” message. Men, in contrast, will often raise a hand to flatten their hair around women they adore: not only is it grooming, but it also gives the impression of increased height.
4. Energy“I could have danced all night,” isn’t an exaggeration – people in love DO have more energy than the uninfatuated. Anthropologist Dr Helen Fisher ran brain scans on people who confessed to being “madly in love” and found activity in the limbic system of the brain due to a molecule called phenylethylamine (PEA) which is released when we form an intense emotional bond. This action caused “feelings of elation, exhilaration, and euphoria,” says Fisher. This might explain why people in love never sleep either, preferring to spend all night Googling their beloved.
5. TrustWhen we enter the “attachment” stage of love – the slightly calmer state we reach after the initial lust and infatuation have receded – increased levels of a hormone called Oxytocin cause us to trust our partner. Oxytocin (also known as the bonding hormone) is released during sexual contact and is responsible for boosting feelings of affection and togetherness, and its effect on trust let us do things like spend the night together and make love. Does your partner take your word for things, let you borrow their car and not triple-check where you go at night? Then they’re in deep, baby. Enjoy!
1. EyesFirst of all, look deeply into their eyes. Notice if their pupils are dilated because if they are, they’re very attracted to you. Sexual desire – like fear – stimulates the sympathetic nervous system, one of the effects of which is wide, opened pupils. It can also relax the muscles around the eyes, giving them a softer “doe-eyed” appearance. Aww.
Then hold your partner’s gaze for four seconds or more – body-language research has shown that a long “eye meet” is only tolerated when a person feels affectionate towards a partner, otherwise it is perceived as an aggression action.
2. HipsWhen people are with someone they are fiercely attracted to, they unconsciously shift position so their hips are facing towards them. A US study conducted by David Givens and Timothy Perper revealed that lovers practice “total body synchrony”. Eh? In short, “they pivot or swivel until their shoulders become aligned, their bodies face-to-face…” Hmm, maybe this explains why dancing partners keep falling for each other on Strictly. But it’s more than just facing your lover -- couples in love often mirror each other’s actions, or move in tandem; specifically, they follow each other without question, or do not verbally acknowledge gestures between each other (for example, they could take a sip of your drink without asking, or you’d sit next to them without asking permission).
3. HairDoes it look great? Great! Being in love stimulates people to improve their appearance so a new haircut can be a sign of attraction. Does it look messy? Better! Repeated grooming gestures are another body-language giveaway of attraction. Women will twirl, stroke and play with their hair in the presence of their dream man, as a subconscious, “Please God let me look OK,” message. Men, in contrast, will often raise a hand to flatten their hair around women they adore: not only is it grooming, but it also gives the impression of increased height.
4. Energy“I could have danced all night,” isn’t an exaggeration – people in love DO have more energy than the uninfatuated. Anthropologist Dr Helen Fisher ran brain scans on people who confessed to being “madly in love” and found activity in the limbic system of the brain due to a molecule called phenylethylamine (PEA) which is released when we form an intense emotional bond. This action caused “feelings of elation, exhilaration, and euphoria,” says Fisher. This might explain why people in love never sleep either, preferring to spend all night Googling their beloved.
5. TrustWhen we enter the “attachment” stage of love – the slightly calmer state we reach after the initial lust and infatuation have receded – increased levels of a hormone called Oxytocin cause us to trust our partner. Oxytocin (also known as the bonding hormone) is released during sexual contact and is responsible for boosting feelings of affection and togetherness, and its effect on trust let us do things like spend the night together and make love. Does your partner take your word for things, let you borrow their car and not triple-check where you go at night? Then they’re in deep, baby. Enjoy!
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